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Footysites.com

Posted March 4, 2008* Comments(0)

We received a great letter with a request to view a site called Footysites.com.  Check it out!

Here’s an idea of what it’s about:

http://footysites.com/

At Footy, Inc., we believe that the men and women that make up our military and safety forces are some of the most important people in our society.We are saddened by the fact that our protectors never receive enough recognition and praise that they so richly deserve.We admire an individual who takes up a weapon and confronts an enemy in a foreign land in order to protect his homeland.

We admire an individual who runs into a burning building when everyone else is running out.

We admire an individual who confronts a criminal face to face and puts themselves at risk to protect the citizens they serve.

We admire an individual who goes off to duty every day knowing that they may not return alive.

We admire the family members of our military and safety forces who live every day with the knowledge that their loved ones are confronting evil and are constantly in harms way.

We believe that there is no greater gift that mankind can offer than to sacrifice their own life to protect the citizens they are entrusted to protect. John chapter 15 and verse 13 says this, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

At Footy, Inc., we are dedicated to recognizing the hard work and sacrifice made by our military personnel, our law enforcement officers, and our firefighters.

At Footy, Inc., we are determined to provide a venue for our military and safety forces to show what a great job they are doing by providing a site where their videos and pictures can be uploaded and viewed by the entire world.

May God bless our military and safety forces.

 Let us know what you think!

Retired Officers

Posted August 9, 2007* Comments(0)

If you know and/or love a Retired Officer, please refer to our Sister Page:

Leaving the Badge Behind

What’s Your Secret?

Posted April 1, 2007* Comments(0)

 

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I’ve seen lately that there are many police families breaking apart.  I know it’s becoming an epidemic, almost! If you are like me (99% nosey) you have to be wondering what it is that is pulling our police families apart.    Okay, there are a lot of things.  Too many to talk about in just one paragraph.  Bad things.  Misunderstandings.  Differences of opinion.  Jealousy.  Sometimes even violence. 

But let’s do this instead:  What’s your Secret?  Let’s hear from you, one or two special things you do to keep your marriage from becoming a statistic. Write to us at STOPSpouses@aol.com, with a phrase of “Strong Spouses” in the RE: section.  You may remain anonymous or change your name.  If we use your “secret”, we will use first names only.

 Your helpful thoughts and positive comments could literally save a life, or a family.    Please help us help others.  Can’t wait to hear from you!

 Hugs.  Take Care!

De-Briefing

Posted April 28, 2006* Comments(0)

Some of us hate "the Job". 

Just today we got an e-mail from a concerned girlfriend, worried that her man might be keeping secrets and leading a double-life, thanks to his current undercover assignment. 

He can't talk to her about the assignment, and sometimes can't talk to her at all…and she is worried.  She is suspicious.  Who can blame her?  It's a hard life, loving a police officer.

They don't always want to talk about their job, and sometimes they just can't discuss it.  Sometimes they want to just forget about it.  We have to be mind-readers sometimes to know, or…

My very favorite Police Officer's wife does this…

When her Hero gets home, they put his things away together.  They tell the kids not to interrupt them for 30 minutes unless someone is bleeding or the house is on fire.  (I know what you're thinking and that is NOT it - ha)

They go into the back yard and, him first, they discuss the day's events.  This is DE-BRIEFING.

It's a set period of time for him to vent, scream, cry, unload the stress, and for her to know he loves her and he needs her and that any mood he presents has somewhat of a valid reason behind it, and it's not her fault if he's in a bad mood.

She listens, she helps, and she hugs.  Sometimes she cries with him.  And she knows that some days he will have nothing to say, or nothing he can share because of the need for secrecy.  Sometimes he talks in circles, and she just tries to understand.  But she's there for him and he knows that.  She's listening.   Not talking.  Not judging.  Not demanding anything.  Just listening.  And it's important for him to have her… a safe place, and someone to hear him and love him and understand him.

After his day's events are laid out and discussed, she begins to tell of her day's journeys…  and sometimes she decides to save sharing the days problems for another day…  maybe she'll carry those things until a day comes when his day was not so bad. 

My point is this:  Even if you hate his job, do your best to be there for him when he needs you.  And understand those times when he can't talk about it.  Give him the time and the space, but ALWAYS make him know that you are there for him when he is ready to talk.  He needs a safe place to come home to, and you should be that safe place. 

We may not always understand the job, but if you love that Officer, you'll do your best to try.  Until then, try to BE that SAFE PLACE they need to come home to.  Be there when they need to talk, and understand when they don't want to, or if they just can't. 

It's not easy.  But it's worth it.